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i have a boyfriend that treats me bad. he acts nice off and on. he swore at me and he threaten to kill me. he wont let me go. he scares me. any advice plz
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by Anatic09
i have a boyfriend that treats me bad. he acts nice off and on. he swore at me and he threaten to kill me. he wont let me go. he scares me. any advice plz
First of all, it is not your fault that your boyfriend is abusive to you. There is nothing that you could do that would make you deserving of that kind of treatment. This is not your fault.
Secondly, you have to see this relationship for what it is: abusive. You have an abusive boyfriend. A relationship is supposed to feel good, and you're supposed to feel safe with your partner. Since that is not the case, it is your responsibility to end the relationship. Ending this relationship is the best thing you can do for yourself. You know you don't want to be treated this way. You know you're better than this. You know you deserve better than him. If you don't know those things, say them out loud to yourself over and over until you do.
This guy is a waste of time and affection. Anyone who treats you like that should be dumped immediately, no questions, no excuses, no delays.
It's also important that you take the necessary steps to protect yourself from him. If you fear that he'll be violent with you when you break up with him, don't do it in person. Do it over the phone. That's not generally good break-up advice, but your safety comes first. Let your friends, family members, and teachers know that you want to stay away from him, and they wil be better able to keep him away from you. If it becomes a serious issue of life and death, go to the police and get a restraining order. That's not an extreme option if your life is a risk. It's a necessary one.
Break-ups are difficult, but you have to do what you know is right and get this guy out of your life as quickly as possible. He is extremely unhealthy for you to be around.
Please keep us updated on this. It's so important to use the power of your voice.
Also, if you still have my e-mail address, please feel free to e-mail me at any time to talk about this issue further. I'm here for you.
*HUG*
~ Samantha