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Alright. So I think I am ready to come out. I just need some advice on how to go about it. I live in a stable enough family, with both my parents and 4 younger siblings. I have already been through all the general things in my mind and I know that (even though they won't be very happy) my parents arn't going to kick me out of the house or anything like that. I am 14 years old, in ninth grade. I have only come out to one of my friends, and that was over text message. I'm pretty sure I can't handle it that same way with my family, though it may work with the rest of my friends. LOL. Anyways. So anyone have any suggestions? Should I pull them into another room? Should I just mention it at the dinner table? I'm kind of confused... so any comments would be appreciated!! :D thank you very much.
However you choose to do it, you'll probably still be nervous whether you tell them all at once or individually. If you feel one or two of them will be more understanding than the others, tell them first and then ask for advice on how to tell the rest of the family. Then, when you do, you'll have back up.
As for what to say, just be honest. Speak from your heart. Whether you do that casually for formally, be proud of who you are.
Good luck!! And let us know how it goes. :-)
With that being sad, I also agree with Mahayana that you should be happy and proud about who you are and your honesty. I think you are incredible brave to be making this decision and I wish you all the best with having this frank conversation with your family. I also agree with Mahayana to emphasize that although you want to share this part of your identity with them, it does not change the fact that you love them and that your sexuality is not the only part of your identity.
However I also would urge you to think about how ready you would be to deal with their responses. Are you in an emotionally stable place right now? Would you have the support to deal with any consequences that may arise?
She said she wished we were closer, and that she was upset that I felt threatened by telling her. Me coming out to my mom, was by far the most challenging thing i have ever done... And it is a very new wound to me.. I came out about a week and a half ago to her.
I would love to hear on your progress! Thank you for sharing your story :)