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by: shiningthrough

Thursday, December 31, 2009 at 2:33:00 PM EST

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So a little while back I came out to my family - my whole family, actually I posted about it.
My mom and my two brothers were very OK with it, but my Dad, Step mom, and stepsister (she does everything shes told to by her mom) have yet to speak with me. And you know thats ok, because I am who I am and i can't change that, nor will I ever want to.

But ever since I came out to my family, I have been feeling kind of awkward not knowing whats going on in their heads when I say stuff like, "ya she is gorgeous," or "I met this girl the other day and..."
- is this normal? I am afraid that maybe on the inside they think I am like super duper weird for feeling the way I do. It is making me a tinsy bit self-conscious about saying certain things and when I ask them about they say it is fine and don't worry about just be myself.

Is it normal to be feeling like this after you have come out?

THANKS TO THOSE WHO RESPONDDD!!!! :-)

Peace and Love,
Christie

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I can't speak from experience, but it sounds normal to me. And again, like your family said, just be who you are. Don't be afraid to be yourself. If something you say makes them uncomoftable, they'll let you know, but otherwise, feel free to share what you're thinking and feeling. It's great that they're willing to listen.

# Posted By Mahayana | 1/1/10 01:49 PM | Report | Reply

I can't speak from experience, but I do understand feeling that way. I think it's perfectly normal. You're probably just feeling a bit self-conscious with the way your family has reacted. Just try to remember that you are a very strong person for doing what you did! With confidence in yourself and high self-esteem, you will most likely find that feeling that way subsides a bit. I think that, because the situation is very new, you will find yourself adapting to it in time. Good luck!

# Posted By cmartin626 | 1/4/10 05:29 PM | Report | Reply

I do speak from experience, and I can safely say that I feel the same way. I always feel uncomfortable speaking openly about my feelings or thoughts when it comes to my sexuality. As I continue discussing it, however, it does get easier. I am almost completely okay with talking openly about it to my friends. Its still extremely hard with my Mother though. I know she doesn't mind and I know she accepts it, but I still feel squeamish about mentioning it sometimes... I think its my concern for their opinion and feelings that gets in the way, warranted or not.

# Posted By rachellbb | 1/5/10 08:24 PM | Report | Reply

I certainly understand your "guessing" feelings toward your family, which is certainly natural. Its unfortunate that the source of many of these doubts stem from popular stigmas that exist, associating diseases, promiscuity, and a number of other negativities to homosexuality, when, in reality, these are problems prevelant in all forms of sexuality. I'm cautiously optimisitic that this is changing for the better, at least in the western world, and hopefully 'coming out' will be easier for near-future generations.
I agree with the previous comments, be sure to keep looking at your decision as a liberation! I congratulate you , and remind you to be sure to confide in those close to you when you have doubts.
All the best of luck to you.

# Posted By doraBelle | 7/13/10 10:33 PM | Report | Reply

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