Kids learn most things from their parents right? I was a nosey child, so I would listen to my mom's conversations, and I learned a lot! Maybe more than I needed to know, but it's ok! But could what adults talk about influence a child's wrong doings in the future? What am I talking about, you may ask. Okay, so as I was driving home tonight I was listening to the radio and tonight was "Talk Tuesdays". The question for tonight was "could sex lead up to love", my face dropped, I was so shocked that that would even be considered a question on the radio. Needless to say I changed the station before I even heard the responses of local listeners. I could only imagine the ignorance that some adults would respond to that question. But all this ties into my question before, could what adults talk about influence a child's wrong doings in the future? Scenario: suppose you are a ten year old and didn't know anything about sex, but you overheard your mother talking about how sex and making the statements about how sex should come before love, and how a man’s performance in the bed, is a determinate of how he will treat you in a relationship (sounds crazy but I heard it from an adult before). As a child little things stick in your mind. So you're older now, and have learned what sex is, wouldn't you begin to believe that sex should come before love, because THAT’S WHAT YOUR MOTHER ONCE SAID? So parents need to understand that, they have a huge influnce on how their child grows up by not only their actions and what they teach them, but also what they say when they think their child is not listening. Remember, all kids are nosey in their own way!

Yesterday I had my first Pizza Protection Party (PPP). If you are not familiar with the work of the South Carolina Youth Activists, we educate our peers using Facebook, Twtter, and we conduct education sessions with our peers to educate them on sexual health including contraception. During each of our education sessions, we use really innovative and creative methods, including games, to educate; we also provide FREE pizza… hence where the clever “Pizza Protection Party” title comes in!

For my first PPP I had the opportunity to educate a class of high school juniors and seniors. It was a very rewarding experience because the class was very interactive within the entire presentation. The way the participants played the educational games and asked questions, I could tell they were fully engaged in the discussion.

Why would boys be taught about birth control?

This is a question that is commonly asked by both males and females. Birth control is an issue that males and females should both be worried about when they are sexually active, so why do people question why a boy should know about birth chontrol? Say if a boy gets a girl pregnant, and the girl is younger than the boy and she is not knowledgable about the different types of birth control, shouldn’t the boy be able to give advice on what her options are, rather than possibly seeking an abortion? Instead of the boy being naïve, unaware, or denying the fact that the girl is pregnant or thinking that the only way to prevent having a child is abortion, he along with the girl should know about Emergency Contraception (let’s say EC instead of Plan B, b/c there is also another EC pill out now called Ella, along with the generic version of Plan B called Next Choice) . The Emergency Contraceptive Pill (Brands include: Plan B, Next Choice and Ella) are commonly referred to as the “Morning after pill”. It can be used if a woman has unprotected sex, if there was failure in any other type of birth control, or if a woman has been sexual assaulted. It should not be used as a routine form of birth control, and the Emergency Contraceptive Pill does not terminate an already existing pregnancy.

So fellas, wouldn’t you rather know about having the option of purchasing the Emergency Contraceptive Pill, as opposed to purchasing diapers? Just purchasing that ONE pill can costly, about $50 in some pharmacies, however that beats paying 5 times that amount a month (on what?- please include a word here).

So to answer the question “Why would boys be taught about birth control?”… Well, I’ve just shared at least one highly important scenario!! Knowledge on Contraception is for everyone, for more information please text SEXT to 74574 or visit our website at www.southcarolinasafersex.org.

What does LOVE really mean? Today's generation say LOVE means “Legs Open Very Easy.” REALLY? As a teenager I have been in "Love" once or twice, but that doesn't mean that I had sexual intercourse with that person that I loved. Since when did love ever have to be expressed by the male being able to enter the female? Maybe that's why many males feel like they have to use the pick-up line "if you love me, then you'll have sex with me". But should you have to PROVE that you love a person? Actions do speak louder than words, but words are still heard.
Today, "LOVE" is an expression that is used when a person cannot accurately express the way they feel. Teens should be able to realize that being in love with someone doesn't mean you are obligated to have sex with them. Fall in love with a person for their hearts, not what they have in their pants or skirt.

"Why is he with that white girl? He needs to be with a sister like me, not dating outside of his race." This is what I hear people say on the streets, when an interracial couple walks pass them. Personally, I LOVE interracial couples because it brings diversity to our country. No two people are the same, and this really makes that statement true. When a child is mixed with two different cultures, think it is a beautiful thing. They are rich with two cultures.

There are no color borders when it comes down to love. Love is blind, right? So why is it judged so much upon?

History lesson guys, we are no longer in slavery times, when the passion between two people of different races was considered immoral. We, as a nation, have matured from the conditions we once were in. It’s time to accept the unacceptable, and love the unordinary. Stop judging what we don't understand or fail to understand. So if the African American wants to date an Asian, as long as their happy, let them live their lives!

I was talking to a couple of friends the other day, and one was telling me about her best friend who is a bisexual male. But before we started talking about the boy, we was talking about females who are bisexual, and the conversation was normal. Normal meaning the female being bisexual was more accepted than the male.

Not everyone agrees with people being homosexual at all, but some people are more prejudice to males who are bisexual. Why is it that "girl on girl" action is a turn on to some people, but a guy with another guy makes people stomachs turn? Some people say that males who are bisexual are just confused, and they don't know what the want. But maybe it's not confusion; it could just be that they are attracted to both sexes. Why is it that when a girl is bisexual it’s just assumed that she is curious about the other side? Curiousity is not the source of someone's sexual orientation, its more of a desire and way of life. Dont get me wrong, I have met people who was curious about how the other side feels, but thats not EVERYONE.

But my question still remains the same, why does it seem as though a bisexual female more accepted than a bisexual male?

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Last month, I had to write a research paper on any subject that I felt passionate about, so I decided to write based on the statement "Single mothers, and homosexual couples are both not suited to raising children." Being from a single parent home, and feeling that homosexual couples can give the same love and care for a child as a heterosexual couple, made me want to prove this statement to be false. In the paper I wrote on the stereotype of single mothers being financially unable to care for their kids. Additionally I discussed stereotypes about homosexual couples, specifically about how they may influence their kids to be homosexuals as well. Some single mothers do have financial problems, because their dependate solely on their income to take care of all their responsibilities, and they may not have a job that pays enough to support all their needs. However with government assistance, they are able to make ends meet and care for their child the best way they know how. A study was performed by a college, i forgot the exact college (if you can’t remember the college, you can just re word the sentence, but are you referring to the “sissy boy” experiment that was done years ago at UCLA?), however it basically proved that sexuality can not be taught to children, someone's sexual orientation is already in place when they are born.

The conclusion of my research paper is that single parents and homosexual couples may have certain struggles, but as long as the child is being provided a stable enviroment, their parent's sexual orientation, or financial situation shouldn't matter .

Every girl has fallen in love and unfortunately had their heart broken

Tears occupy their broken heart

They attempt to get over their heartbreaker by doing whatever they can to keep themselves occupied

But after so much heartbreak, she became wary

She associated every guy to be a heartbreaker, and insensitive to her feelings

So she begin to look at females in a different light

She notices how flattering tight pants make a female's butt look

She notices how big some female's breast are

She now notices how attracted she is to females

So she opens her heart to females, because she associates them with being caring and more sensitive to the way she feel

Unsure if these feelings are legit, she confines in a best friend for advise

Her best friend, unsure of how to cope with the information lashes out in anger, expressing that you can't be gay over night

Or can you?

We, as humans can trick our minds and hearts to believe what we want to believe

So she believed that all boys were heartbreakers , and girls were healers

She is human, and is able to feel the way she want to feel right?

His pants are tight… she's dresses like a dude… oh, she likes rainbows… THEY'RE GAY. Have you ever heard these comments about someone and them being associated with a person being gay? These are misconceptions of a person's life. What if he likes wearing tight pants because instead of saggiing, he wants to look more presentable? What if she likes to wear baggy clothes because she is self-conscious about her evolving body? What if she like rainbows, because of the stories she remember her mother telling her when she was younger? Couldn't these be reasons why people do, or dress the way they dress? We never know what the next person is feeling or dealing with in their life, so why should we judge them based upon the way they look or think? But in today's society, we can not chaneg the way people perceive other people. The only thing we can control is our own thoughts, and what we say. So instead of assuming that boy who wears tight pants, or that girl who dresses like a dude is gay, get to know them, maybe you will better understand why they are the way they are.