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Blog - Amplify your voice

Sunday, June 26, 2011 at 12:48:00 PM EDT

Since Amaka became our friend a month ago, we always walked home together after lectures and we usually talked about random stories saying them out as we remembered them. Today seemed different as only Aisha and I contributed to the discussion while Amaka contributed her smile which she obviously tried hard to give. I met Aisha’s gaze which passed the information that there was something wrong with Amaka. Anyways, we still kept the story up as Aisha was talking about how her course mate got a tattoo drawn on her eye brow after shaving the hairs there. As she talked I monitored Amaka’s expressions. Whatever must be wrong with her must be a big one I thought. Of the three of us, my house was the closest to the school so we usually went there first before Aisha and Amaka departed to their various homes. Today took a different turn as Amaka wanted to go straight to her house. We asked why, and she said she needed to rest claiming she has a headache the size of Lagos. We let her know fully well we would be at her house once we dropped our bags and lab coats.
As we got to my house, I asked Aisha if she had an idea of what Amaka’s worries were about but she said she was also going to ask me the same before I asked. Apparently we both were ignorant of the worries of our one and only ‘sexy Amaka’ as the boys would call her. As we were getting ready to leave for Amaka’s house, Aisha got a call from her neighbour Demian and I heard her say: latest video spreading fast around campus? No I haven’t seen it. He sounded sarcastic and this made Aisha interested in the video. Tell me about it she said and immediately I saw surprise and terror flash on her face as she said oh my God! She let the phone fall off her palm as she stared at me expressionless. I ran for the phone but I was late. I asked what the problem was and her gaze remained focused on me and she said; it’s Amaka. I sat her down and asked her to tell me about it. Amaka has a sex video spreading fast around campus! I cupped my mouth not knowing what to do or say then I realized her bad mood perfectly fits this bad news. Aisha went on to say the school authority had seen the video and she was going to face the school’s panel the next day.
We hurried to Amaka’s house and found her weeping. I couldn’t stop my tears from rolling out. The three friends cried in silence. Aisha broke the ice by asking Amaka to tell us about it. It took Amaka some minutes to catch her breath as she spoke in between sobs. I met Seun a year back she said, and we used to hangout as friends not until he asked me to be his girlfriend. I didn’t see any reason to say no save for the fact that we just became friends. We liked each other and we got along well. Four months later I found out Seun was a drug addict and I compelled him to stop. At the initial stage he would pretend not to hear me but later he began to warn me about telling him to refrain from drugs. We were sexually active so we usually had a makeup sex after our row but I didn’t know Seun took a video of any. At a point, he would ask to collect some money from me and when I refuse to give him he would beat me up and forcefully take my cash card, this went on for another five months after which I told him I wanted a break from him. This got him mad and he told me if I did he would destroy my future but I didn’t know how he planned to, so I took it as a mere threat. He was obviously scared I was going to expose his drug business but I explained I wouldn’t, even at that he warned me not to go. Three months back I made up my mind and pulled out of the relationship and he swore to deal with me. Recently he called me and told me I went about telling people of his drug business which I told him I didn’t do but he would not listen. Now I see he has given out a video of us and I am doomed! This would definitely make me expose his hidden activity because we are together in this. I wish I had not met Seun she cried, I wished I also abstained!
SEX +DRUGS- What a bad combination!

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 I'm so sorry your friend is going through this horrible situation. Please make sure she knows that the tape being shown is not her fault. It was recorded without her consent and shown to others without her consent.. Her boyfriend was very abusive toward her. She didn't deserve to be treated with so little respect. As you know, she is still a great person, and should be allowed to talk about what she's feeling about this situation. Hiding abuse doesn't make it go away. I'm really proud of her for leaving him, and I hope she realizes that she stil has that strength. What he did was terrible, but she is the one who has power over her life- not him. 
# Posted By AFY_Samantha | 7/5/11 05:04 PM | Reply