I am a 16 year old woman that hails from the eastern part of Nigeria, who has always dated men. The problem is I always break it off before it gets at all serious, because it basically doesn't feel right. There is no specific reason why, I just don't feel comfortable. I often enjoy spending time with men, talking etc, but I don't really want them to touch me. I have had physical relationships with men, but I never feel entirely comfortable. For want of a better phrase, I essentially just put up with the physical stuff because I don't want to hurt their feelings. Then I break up with them, before it gets serious. This has happened a few times.
I often imagine myself being with a woman, and do find female bodies extremely beautiful. I flip back and forth on what I want so much right now, and honestly don't know if I want to be with a man or a woman. It’s very confusing! Maybe I should go to a support group or counselor?
Can anyone relate to what I'm saying or offer advice?
I can relate to this. I had a relationship with a man, and even convinced myself to push through being uncomfortable with the physicality because i wanted to make him happy, because i wanted to convince myself I'm straight. (I'm really a lesbian... bad idea right?)
but anyways, I really think you should ask friends (if you can) and definately talk to a professional. Nothing bad, just to talk and figure everything out.
It's okay to be confused. A lot of people go through a period of questioning their sexuality, trying to understand the way they feel and who they're attracted to and why. If you're feeling physically uncomfortable around men, there's a reason for that. Take some time to figure out what it is about women that makes you feel more comfortable. Your partner should be someone that you feel comfortable with, both physiclaly and emotionally. If it feels more natural for you to be with a woman, then explore that. Basically, do what makes you happy!
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but anyways, I really think you should ask friends (if you can) and definately talk to a professional. Nothing bad, just to talk and figure everything out.
Hope you find out soon :)