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cavve_solWednesday, May 25, 2011 at 3:18:00 PM EDT
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Who or what is the crazy sex nympho myth?
Ms. Clarisse Thorn of Jezebel.com writes:
“There’s this cultural image of what it means to be female, and good in bed. The image includes a lot of behavioral stuff: the way you squirm, the way you moan, being Super Excited about everything the guy wants to do, and Always Being Up for It — whatever “It” is. When people think about “good in bed,” for a woman, that’s often what they think. This image also includes being young and thin and cisgendered of course…”
Take this book cover for starters; a pretty generic idea of what sexy is, for any audience member, yet read the title. Clearly, Jenny McCarthy is not here to uphold the false projections womyn of society are thrown under. The idea is not that you can’t truly be enjoying sex that much, but if you aren’t, why do so many womyn feel even the slightest obligation to “perform” while, errrrr, performing??It’s like this: we want to come away from the stereotypes and unfounded ideals that sometimes we ALL get too caught up in, especially when you’re still figuring out the game. If your earliest intro’s to sexuality and sex were the monotonous “porn-size-fits-all” videos and the terrible culture of sitcoms where every couple is totally&&unequivocally satiated with each others bedroom performance, then yes you too may share this next sentiment: “Because I have always, since before I even started having sex, known exactly what I was supposed to look like while I had sex… I can definitely assure you that before I had any actual sexual partners, I knew how to give a good blowjob.” It’s crazy, but too many womyn share this very same introduction to the world of sex.
And not just womyn, of course... I love how she blatantly says she doesn't want to stick men to the same general stereotype, "the idea that men are emotionally stunted horndogs with no interest in how their partners feel." I loved how this isn't just some "womyn rant", it's intellectual and sincere and not witholding; brilliant.
**quick disclaimer: this is NOT an anti-porn blog, but it is important to note that porn, while quick&&accessible, is not a be-all-end-all to sex-ed, early or otherwise.. porn is great, albeit just half-the-story, I'd just like to acknowledge how due to a terrible lack of societal sex-ed in general, porn has reigned carelessly amidst our adolescents, who have many questions but never enough answers** {{speaking of which, check out this site, wrote a blog on it before, it's really cool, and NOT anti-porn necessarily, just realistic: Make Love Not Porn}}
Clarisse really goes IN on the whole issue, sharing personal thoughts as well as referencing valid points from other feminist arguments. It’s a really great read, so take a minute and take it all in. Click on any of the quotes to go to the article; the first link is to the Jezebel website homepage (with tons of great articles, I'm just getting started for today).
Oh, and I also found this article on another site, entitled The Good Men Project (and apparently it’s Sex Week, so read up on many other good articles!!)Always readers, stay SAFE!!
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