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Tuesday, June 30, 2009 at 6:52:00 PM EDT
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Issues that target the LGBT community have been taken to the streets and have given birth to debates nation wide. Issues like Same-Sex Marriage, the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell policy, the Defense of Marriage Act, and others have garnered the attention of the media, good and bad, and have struck up conversations within households and among friends and coworkers. But outside the politics is the issue of how the LGBT community is looked at in the public. What is the public perception and how does the media portray people who are LGBT? As we end the official Gay Pride Month, I’d like to address one of the issues we may not always consider when it comes to liberation.
 
Specifically, the issue I address is gay public displays of affection (Gay PDA). We see heterosexual couples displaying their love on TV, on the streets, and in our daily lives often. More than often some will say. It’s so common in my high school that there’s a couple in every single class and you know what they’re doing in the back room. It’s natural, to be expected, and it’s ok with me. I don’t get up in their face if they don’t get up in mine. Now I wonder how it’d be if it was me. What if my boyfriend and I we in their positions and they were in mine. Would they be as liberal as me? It’s weird to think about it and even weirder to be in the situation. But if society is going to let nature run its course with heterosexuals why not homosexuals?
 
According to an article from scientificamerican.com, “‘Gay-Friendly’ people unconsciously feel that two men kissing in public is morally wrong.” In the article, an experiment was done on college students to see what their reactions would be if they read an article about a music video that led to more gay PDA, specifically, French kissing. The study found that, apparently, even some heterosexual people who support gay rights have problems with gay PDA. The explanation for this is most likely the following:
Individuals belonging to unfamiliar groups, especially those who engaged in unusual practices regarding food, cleanliness and sex, posed a higher risk of carrying novel (and therefore particularly dangerous) infectious agents. Perceiving such individuals would thus activate the behavioral immune system and cause avoidance behavior and the accompanying emotion of disgust…. This hypervigilance may be especially acute in those individuals who are especially sensitive to disgust, the emotion that drives the behavioral avoidance system. Because gay people almost by definition engage in “unusual” sexual behavior, one would expect more negative reactions to this outgroup on the part of those who are particularly disgust sensitive.
 So in the end, if you're not used to two men kissing each other, it's most likely that you will have a problem with seeing it then people who are exposed to it. Your stance on gay rights is irrelevant when it comes to gay PDAs.

ABC News took us for an inside look three years ago on their show 20/20 in a segment they called “What Would You Do?” In this installment, ABC tested the public’s reaction when they sent their two couples, two gay men and two gay women, to display their affection in a public setting. The couples garnered mixed feelings from the passers. Some reactions were disgusting and uncalledfor, while others were heartwarming and sweet. The craziest reaction had to come from the person who called the police on the two men who were part of the experiment. What’s the final verdict on the experiment? It seems that whether you’re in a red state like Alabama or a blue state like New Jersey (where the experiments were held) the majority will be the people who accept and adore the gay PDA.
 
Delores Spraggins of Birmingham and her daughter June seemed to speak for the majority in both the red and the blue state. "There is a lot of hatred in the world. Love is good wherever you can find it," Spraggins said.

This leads me to believe that, in fact, there are more people, a growing number of people, who will accept gays expressing their love in public.
 
In a similar experiment done by ABC in New Jersey, two men are in a bar, showing their affection towards one another openly. As one of the ABC actors comments negatively on what’s happening to the man sitting next to her, the man quickly agrees and expresses his distaste for gay PDAs. The man quickly changed his view on the two men in the bar, however, as soon as the cameras hit him. According to the expert analysts, people psychologically want to “fit in” with other people when it comes to tolerance. It may also explain why even people who may not have a problem with gay people may involve themselves with gay bashers just so that they can “fit in”. When the majority is tolerant, though, those people who are intolerant may want to change their stance.
 
Bill O’Reilly seems to be the only common sense thinker out there for gays. Yeah, right. As you can see from this video, he takes this nonissue way out of line. Why a commercial in the UK about mayonnaise is news worthy is beyond me. O’Reilly is convinced that the two men kissing in the commercial is more “indoctrination” from companies that play to the “gay agenda”, while his guests argue that the commercial is nothing more than a little “genderblending” at play. To be honest, I hope it really was aimed at the gay community. It’d be a message from the Hienz Company that they don’t care who you are, just as long as you buy our product, and that being gay is okay. But at least he does bring up something interesting. Gay marketing. We’ve seen gays in our soap operas, reality shows, and teen dramas but it seems that now is the time for businesses to be more gay-friendly. Of course, this has already been going on but I think it’s about to get even more mainstream as the gay demographic grows a larger spectrum. I’m no prophet but I think it’s pretty much inevitable. Times change and so does how we view culture and sex. Soon, gays in travel commercials or insurance commercials will garner no talking heads from the media and gay will be a nonissue.
 
Two college students in France decided that they would make a statement about gays in community and their visibility. The two students gathered at Trocadéro (Human rights plaza) in Paris. The slogan of the operation: "Kiss Wherever You Like". According to the students:
“We realized that it’s not easy to kiss everywhere even though it’s easier in Paris than elsewhere but sometimes we hesitate to hold hands in the street and it’s really too bad we feel that people are just not used to it…We want to encourage people by showing them they can.”
 
It makes me think about the recent blog that came out about the Will and Grace creator who criticized Pride icons. You are open and free to have your opinions about them but let them be. They’re not harming anyone. You may think they are hurting the cause but those are the same people who want to come out, be proud, and support their community. Why deny them that?
 
Let people live their lives. As long as they aren’t hurting anyone, what’s the big deal? Ana Kasparian of the Young Turks asks, “When is being gay going to stop being a spectacle?” In the article about the ABC experiment, when people were asked about gay PDA, some brought up the subject of children. While some found gay PDA inappropriate in front of children, others had very different points of view:
And then there was Kristin Kenneavy, who said, "I would actually want our kids to grow up in a place where they would see various types of people engaging in behaviors that [are] loving. As I walk by, I'm thinking 'Oh, that's sweet,' you know, that people are in love. I would have absolutely not a problem with our children seeing something like that."
If the LGBT community wants recognition, respect, and rights, the community needs to put itself out there, even when it comes to PDAs. According to the article above from Scientific American, the only way that we can have people stop being so repulsed is by having them exposed to PDA. Sounds weird but the truth is that once something is so common such as heterosexual PDA it becomes the norm, it becomes exceptable, and it stops being a spectacle.
 
What is my final message for all of you as we end June? Live and Let Live!
 
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Great post!! I agree that Gay PDA should be encouraged! <3
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