Tuesday, June 15, 2010 at 2:57:00 PM EDT
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In these modern times, being a hormonal adolescent is a confusing process. Old places change in new ways, emotions run wild and we feel desires we have never felt before. The opposite sex doesn’t have cooties anymore and sitting next to them in class just isn’t the same kind of torture it used to be all those years ago.
Above all of these things, we experience a sense of heightened sexual awareness. Blame it on the media, blame it on your friends, blame it on what you will – sex is a part of our lives now. Not only do we think sexually, but we dress that way.
Ladies wear miniskirts, tank tops, high heels, hair extensions and piercings. Gentlemen wear big jerseys, new shoes, expensive cologne and pants that hang to their knees. Why? Fashion is a huge part of adolescent life. This type of clothing and expression is what we have the tendency to find attractive. We want the opposite sex to look at us and admire us sexually because that’s how our brains are wired, so to speak. That is how we are developing right now.
However, most of us have seen someone who has, in our minds, definitely crossed a few lines. Not only are certain trends out of style, but some are just obscene. So, as the future of our nation, where should we teens say “no” and what clothing gets the green light?
First and foremost, one must examine the original necessity of clothing in general – to cover bare skin. Humankind covers bare skin to offer protection from the elements, keep us warm and hide parts of us that would incite sexual desires in others. Our decorated cloth is more than a fashion statement; it is protection from the weather and rape. Without it, we would be cold and vulnerable.
Thankfully, most of us do not run amok the public absolutely nude. Despite this, some adults believe that youth comes frightfully close to complete nudity. But in a society that expects seductive women and muscular men, how can we be sexy without flaunting our bodies?
In most movies, the seductress is confident and makes eye-contact with all of the people she meets. She walks unafraid and moves with pride, like a cheetah in the African Sahara. This woman easily attracts the room’s undivided attention with her quick wit and charm.
In other movies that we have seen, the bachelor captures the hearts of women all over with his fearlessness and intellect. This man is hygienic, self-assured and humorous – more than enough to make ladies from all over swoon at his very presence.
So, maybe the purest, most irresistible sexuality doesn’t rely on their clothing at all. Not to say showing a little skin doesn’t get attention, but is that really the kind of attention we want?
Self-confidence is always hot.
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I definitely agree that there is a ton more to sexuality than the way a person dresses. And just because you have clothes that are "in style" doesn't mean that you're guaranteed to get the kind of attention you want. It's not just the clothes, but the way a person wears them. And when you wear what's right for you, you look even better than when you wear what the magazines tell you should be wearing.
Hooray for having control over your own body image!