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Dear E,
I’ve been really feeling this guy for sometime now and he seems to be feeling me as well. We flirt with each other often via Facebook and I know the attraction’s there. My problem is that there are a lot of girls that write on his wall on FB and the nature of their relationship seems to be more than just friends. I try to not get jealous because he really isn’t my boyfriend or anything, but I really like him and hope that this will go somewhere. I find myself FB stalking going through the other girls pages trying to find out what type of “friends” they are. I know that sounds crazy but I really like him…. Help, what should I do?
I’ve been really feeling this guy for sometime now and he seems to be feeling me as well. We flirt with each other often via Facebook and I know the attraction’s there. My problem is that there are a lot of girls that write on his wall on FB and the nature of their relationship seems to be more than just friends. I try to not get jealous because he really isn’t my boyfriend or anything, but I really like him and hope that this will go somewhere. I find myself FB stalking going through the other girls pages trying to find out what type of “friends” they are. I know that sounds crazy but I really like him…. Help, what should I do?
Sincerely,
I’m Not a Stalker….
REALLY??!! LOL!!! Okay Dear Heart, first, I need you to step away from the PC…slowly. You are absolutely right! That does sound a trifle bit crazy-ish, but have no fear; I’m ashamed to say, we’ve all been there a time or two. Hey, no judging allowed!
Question, have you ever communicated your feelings to this guy or do you just “poke” him to death hoping he’ll catch on? Does he even know that the subtle cyber flirtation between you two is wreaking havoc on rationality? Let him know how you feel…minus the FB stalker part! As a matter of fact, never and I mean NEVER let on that you’ve even noticed the other girls. PLEASE… After you’ve stated your feelings play it cool and see what develops from there. There are no guarantees with these sorts of things so that’s the only advice I can offer about that.
I’m not sure if you know this guy outside of FB but I suggest again…step away from the computer. Either hang out with him in person or find a “real guy” to flirt with. One thing to keep in mind though: as E’s own personal rule of thumb, it’s never a good idea to have someone you’re seeing as your FB friend. It tends to just get too messy at times…
Good luck and I hope this helps.
PS: STAY OFF OF HIS FRIEND’S PAGES!!! =)
Peace,
E
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