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The closet is for shoes, not boyfriends
My boyfriend is still closeted even though he promised me he would come out a year ago. What should I do?
My boyfriend is still closeted even though he promised me he would come out a year ago. What should I do?
Hmm… The age old dilemma… Well, for starters I commend you for your courageousness in disclosing your sexuality; unfortunately not all of us are so bold. Certain circumstances may prohibit your boyfriend from coming out. It could be a safety issue or simply he doesn’t have the courage. Whatever the case may be, those are his issues and not your own.
Loving someone can truly be a liberating experience. You can’t be free when your relationship is stifled by being closeted. In my opinion you deserve to have that experience.
If I was in your shoes (and I’m sure they’re fab) I wouldn’t continue to pursue a romantic relationship with him. However, I do encourage you (if it’s possible, breakups can get messy) to continue a friendship with him. Support him through whatever his issues are that’s keeping him from kicking down that door. I’m sure it must be hell for him as well.
Tell him that I said it is his right to have the liberty of loving whomever he chooses without prejudice.
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Mom, we need to talk
My mom found a condom in my wallet and freaked out. She says I can’t have them and am too young to be having sex. But I’m not having sex; I’m just trying to be responsible. Why do parents always assume the worst?
My mom found a condom in my wallet and freaked out. She says I can’t have them and am too young to be having sex. But I’m not having sex; I’m just trying to be responsible. Why do parents always assume the worst?
WHOA!! Mom needs to chill!! Kudos on being so responsible, because ultimately we’re accountable for maintaining our own health.
Okay, back to Mom. At this time I think the roles need to be reversed. Instead of waiting for her to sit you down and have “The Talk” with you, I think it’s time that you sat her down and had “The Talk” with her. This may not be the easiest conversation in the world that you’ll have with her, but it’s one that’s essential.
Explain to her what your intentions were. Be open and honest as much as you can. Ask her about the way things were when she was your age. If you feel uncomfortable doing this, write her a letter listing all of your concerns and topics which you would like to discuss with her. You may find it helpful to direct her to the Parent-child Communication section on the Advocates for Youth website. If all else fails, get a third party involved. Someone you can trust that will respect both points of view and have them act as a mediator between you and your mom.
Again, please know that you did nothing wrong. You were absolutely right for taking steps to protect yourself for the “what if’s”.
See you next week, and don't forget to keep sending me your questions to OMGwithE@gmail.com!
See you next week, and don't forget to keep sending me your questions to OMGwithE@gmail.com!
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