A lot of people base their opposition to homosexuality on the idea that it is immoral. They feel that people of the same sex should not be allowed to marry because the act of them marrying would be immoral and would promote other activities they deem immoral, such as homosexual sex. They are adamant on upholding those points for gays and lesbians, yet seem more than willing to let themselves off the hook when they themselves act immorally.

Think about this: Most heterosexual people believe that cheating on your spouse is an immoral act. Yet, they do not believe that this sexual act of immorality should ban them from marrying (or remarrying). So why does “immoral” sex between gay or lesbian couples mean that they can’t get married, but “immoral” sex between two heterosexual people has no impact over their own legal ability to marry? If one “immoral” sexuality bans you from marriage, why doesn’t another? Isn’t their whole point that people who are sexually immoral should be kept from marrying? Further, if they can move on from what they perceive as their own immorality, why can’t they afford the same forgiveness toward the perceived immorality of gay and lesbian couples?

In reality, gay and lesbian sex is not immoral. But my point is that if your opposition to marriage for same-sex couples is based on the fact that you think that their sexuality is immoral, then you can’t restrict this moral distinction exclusively to gay and lesbian couples without admitting your own hypocritical immorality. If you are setting a moral standard, it must apply to everyone. Tell me if I missed it, but I don’t recall hearing about a ballot initiative to ban Tiger Woods from every remarrying because he was “sexually immoral” and cheated on his wife a lot.

Is it a matter of levels of immorality? Is having gay or lesbian sex, even with one partner, immoral enough to keep you from marrying, while having heterosexual sex with several to many partners (while married or not) isn’t enough to restrict your rights? To be clear, I don’t think that either scenario just stated should be enough to legally restrict someone from marrying. Who you have consensual sex with is your business- not the government’s. And, not your neighbors’ on election day- or any other day.

If you feel that homosexual sex is in and of itself immoral, then 1) I feel sorry for you for your poor education, and 2) please realize that what other people do in bed is none of your business. They’re not hurting anyone. They’re not causing any harm. They aren’t doing anything illegal. They’re not involving you in any way. Same-sex couples have been having sex forever and they will continue to have sex forever and there’s nothing you can do about it. So get off your hypocritical high horse and pay some attention to your own marriage.

~ Samantha