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As much as it pains my feminist heart to say this, I do not believe that women rule the world. Let me say that, as a feminist, I do not want women to rule the world- that’s not what feminism is about. Feminism, most basically, is about equality between the sexes. So really, I don’t want either sex to “rule the world.” Yet, again, I am disappointed. As much as I don’t want it to be true, as I see it now, men rule the world. And I hate that. Not because I’m an “angry feminist”…or wait…maybe that’s exactly what I am. And maybe that’s exactly what I should be.
As much as I want to believe that equality between the sexes really does exist, I have come to realize that, in the most important ways, it does not. And until it does, I will continue to be an angry feminist because I cannot and will not accept being seen as less than just because I am a woman. Inequality will never be okay with me. So, until people realize that one sex does not rule the world (or, in other words, until people realize that one sex does not rule over the other) I will continue to be angry.
I think that we have two big problems in the United States when it comes to combating this issue. The first, simply, is that because of our successes in certain areas of this struggle, we forget that there are huge, though possibly less visible, issues that still need significant attention. Our second problem is our difficulty in seeing and comprehending the world outside our borders. We think that the whole world is like us, and if they’re not, they don’t matter anyway. I believe it is this kind of thinking that has allowed the worst inequalities against women to continue.
In the United States, it is illegal to discriminate against women for being women in housing and employment matters. Women are legally permitted and socially expected to control their own finances, attend school (including higher education), have sex with whomever they choose who gives their consent, get married to the person of their choice (this right is obviously different for lesbian women and some bisexual and transgender women) and divorce them if things get too bad, receive medical attention and care, and plan how many children they want to have and when they want to have them. With all of these positives, I can see how a lot of otherwise uninformed or unaware people wouldn’t realize that underneath many of these accomplishments, there remains unresolved inequality and lasting gender bias.
Example 1: When you look at how much money women make in this country compared to how much men make in this country, you get this- 77:100. If the median income for a man is $100 a week, the median income for a woman is $77. This figure includes all jobs at all levels, so it is admittedly not a marker of a wage gap between sexes for the same job. But why is it that women, on average, have lower paying jobs? If men and women were really equal, they would have access to the same higher-paying jobs and the ratio of median income would be a lot closer.
Example 2: Not all companies offer maternity leave to new mothers, and those that do often don’t offer an adequate amount of paid leave.
In 1993, Congress passed the Family and Medical Leave Act:
[FMLA] entitles most workers to up to 12 weeks of job-protected medical leave for birth or adoption. However, the FMLA doesn't cover those who work for smaller companies and guarantees only unpaid leaves.
Twelve weeks of unpaid leave when you’ve got a new baby at home? Who are they kidding? There are some more catches to this “safety net,” though.
You are among the 60 percent of U.S. workers who are eligible if you meet both of the following conditions:
• You work for the federal government, a state or local government, or any company that has 50 or more employees working within 75 miles of your workplace.
• You've worked for your employer for at least 12 months and for at least 1,250 hours during the previous year (an average of 25 hours per week for 50 weeks).
There are a few exceptions: Your employer isn't required to keep your job open for you if you're in the highest-paid 10 percent of wage earners at your company and your employer can show that your absence would cause substantial economic harm to the organization.
Another exception is if you and your partner work for the same company. In this case, you're only entitled to a combined 12 weeks of parental leave between the two of you.
Ah, the joys of motherhood. BabyCenter.com predicts that while “some enlightened companies do offer new parents paid time off, up to six weeks in some cases,” many new mothers should expect to “use a combination of short-term disability, sick leave, vacation, personal days, and unpaid family leave during your time away from work.” Why all the hassle? Why so little respect?
Example 3: Abstinence-only education is a punishment to self-respecting women and girls. It promotes male supremacy and severely restricts female sexual autonomy. It shames women into ignoring their own natural, sexual desires, and makes them think that only their husband will know what’s best for them, sexually or otherwise.
Purity balls, references to chewed gum, clowns that threaten children with cinder blocks, and inaccurate information about condoms and STDs/STIs is not what is best for young people. Women and girls need to know that their desires are not shameful and do not mean that they are “dirty.” Having sex does not make you less valuable. We deserve the truth, not guilt-mongering lies.
And, rather than being harmfully skewed, bisexual, lesbian, and transgender women and their feelings, wants, needs, and desires are completely ignored. In the world of abstinence-only education, they don’t exist. Women of all sexual orientations deserve to be represented with dignity in their classrooms and in society at large.
Example 4: Many women feel pressured to be married by a certain age. The “old maid” stereotype isn’t as strong as it once was, but this kind of thinking starts young. Young girls await their “Prince Charming,” want to be married by a certain age, and have x number of kids by a certain age. But where’s the talk about a job, a career, making a difference in the community?
It’s not that “what do you want to be when you grow up?” is never talked about, but (if you’re female) think about when you were younger- what did you talk about more often or more extensively?- The career you would have and how you would get there?, or The guy of your dreams, what kind of flowers you would have at your wedding, the color of the bridesmaid’s dresses, what your dress would look like, where you would honeymoon? Society still says it’s “normal” for girls to put more thought into their wedding than their career.
Example 5: In terms of social pressure, there is another issue that women are never allowed to forget about: The constant threat of rape. As Jill Filipovic writes in her essay “Offensive Feminism: The Conservative Gender Norms That Perpetuate Rape Culture, And How Feminists Can Fight Back” (found in the book “Yes Means Yes”)
Men are 150% more likely be the victims of violent crimes than women are. […] Men are more likely to be assaulted, injured, or killed when alcohol is involved. Men are more likely to be victimized by a stranger […] And yet it is women who are treated to “suggestions” about how to protect themselves from public stranger assaults… [which] send the false message that women can prevent rape. -p. 23
…[T]he emphasis on rape as a pervasive and constant threat is crucial to maintaining female vulnerability and male power. That narrative, though, does more than just paralyze women- it privileges men. -p. 24
Victim-blaming is rampant in rape culture. And it’s disgusting. Think about this: If someone had their house burglarized and it was discovered that they had left their front door unlocked, would anyone suggest that the robber shouldn’t be punished because the homeowner was “asking” to be robbed?
Example 6: Independent health insurance for women can cost as much as 30-40% more than the cost for men. According to the New York Times, insurance companies say that women are charged higher premiums because “they are more likely to visit doctors [and] get regular check ups…” So now we’re being financially punished because we chose to keep our bodies healthy? That doesn’t seem fair. What makes sense is that an insurance company would encourage people to go on regular doctor visits so that they could prevent a serious illness and/or catch a serious illness in its early stages. But American health insurance companies make money, not sense.
But the 30-40% price disparity for independent coverage doesn’t even take into account the price of coverage for maternity costs. When applying, women must chose between a more expensive plan that covers pregnancy costs, or a less expensive plan that does not. But let’s say you chose the plan without pregnancy coverage and then, unexpectedly, you get pregnant. If you don’t want to have an abortion, you’re stuck paying out of pocket. And that’s a huge bill, especially if something goes wrong.
Speaking of planning for the unexpected, it has also been proposed in the Senate, as part of health care reform, that if women want insurance coverage for one of the most common medical procedures available to them (abortion), they must purchase an separate, additional rider to their policy. As if getting an abortion wasn’t already hard enough. (More on that later.)
Example 7: Right before leaving office, former President Bush implemented a “conscience clause.” According to CNN:
Under the rule, workers in health-care settings -- from doctors to janitors -- can refuse to provide services, information or advice to patients on subjects such as contraception, family planning, blood transfusions and even vaccine counseling if they are morally against it.
There have been many articles written about the fact that President Obama “plans on” reversing the regulations and that he is “in the process of” reversing them. But what about an official reversal? Where are those articles? The fact is, despite all the talk, President Obama has not reversed this incredibly harmful policy.
Example 8: Getting an abortion in this country may be legal, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. In fact, for many women it’s quite difficult (even when you don’t factor in the social stigma that still exists, even though for the past 30 years there have been over 1 million legal abortions performed each year. Which means that someone you know has had one.) The laundry list of hoops that women have to jump through just to receive this medical procedure is flat out insulting.
From stateline.org:
In 2007, 29 abortion restrictions were enacted in 14 states, capping a rapid rise in the number of new laws since 2000. Between 1985 and 1999, states passed an average of 11 new abortion restrictions each year. Since 2000, the rate has risen to 16 per year, according to Guttmacher.
The list of restrictions include parental notification laws, ultrasound requirements, waiting periods, and time limits. The restrictions also extend to clinic access- many states have only one or two clinics that offer the procedure. It’s also a quite expensive procedure (depending on many factors), and with no federal funding going toward helping women afford it (because of the Hyde Amendment), many women are forced to turn to other options (which sometimes means that she is risking her life to obtain an unsafe, illegal abortion).
Add to all of these examples the struggles that transgender women go through when they are told that they aren’t really women. The level of disrespect is shameful. Women must be allowed to make their own decisions, have the opportunities to implement those choices, and be free of ridicule or social stigma in doing so.
Outside of the United States, these inequalities and abuses, and their consequences, grow exponentially.
Women throughout the world are notoriously and chronically unemployed. This moves well beyond any notion of a slow economy or a weak job market, and goes much deeper than the idea of a pearl-wearing, dinner-preparing housewife in heels. Women have been flatly rejected or are brutally disrespected by employers who are willing to hire them (and who do so, largely, because they feel that women are more willing to work in poorer conditions and for lower wages). And don’t think for a moment that most of these women are permitted to self-manage their meager earnings. These money troubles become even more troublesome when you factor in how many women aren’t paid at all because their work is more accurately described as slave labor.
One powerful reason that women are so disadvantaged economically is directly related to their significant lack of education. While a quality education is hard to come by for both men and women in many parts of the world, boys have always been given priority over girls when it comes to schooling. Girls in developing countries are lucky to get just one or two years of schooling- never mind the 12 or 16 years or more that women in this country not only hope for but have come to expect. Deeply entrenched gender roles play a large part in this issue, and many others.
The striking lack of female sexual autonomy (that is, the power that females have over what happens to them sexually), is one of the biggest problems that women currently face. It has a wide range of implications and consequences and manifests itself in a variety of ways. This lack of basic control is one of the largest, most deeply entrenched, and most harmful barriers for women. Here’s why: How can anyone be expected to succeed- financially, mentally, and emotionally- when the promise of a job turns into the horror of being the victim of sex trafficking and being forced to smile at your rapists?, when the threat of HIV, other STIs/STDs, and pregnancy is constant because condoms are disregarded even when they’re available?, when marital rape is legal?, when abortion is illegal and women are forced to procure highly dangerous, “back-alley” abortions?, when maternal mortality rates are sky high?, when sick female children are kept at home while sick male children are taken to see a doctor because male children are seen as more valuable? Statistically, women live longer than men, so it makes sense that female populations would outnumber male populations. Yet, in the countries with the most dramatic gender inequalities, the opposite is the case. Any guess as to why that is?
So, when someone says “women rule the world”…what world are they living in?
If this is depressing you, that’s a good thing. Why? Because it means that you’re not okay with what’s going on. It means that, to you, this isn’t business as usual. But to so many, that’s exactly what it is- which is why this is still such a huge global problem.
This is why gender inequality is not a small or irrelevant issue. This is why feminism isn’t dead. This is why when you experience, or even hear about, an instance of gender inequality or an abuse toward females, even when it’s a “small” instance, you have to do something about it. You owe it to yourself, and every woman, to stand up, speak up, and keep being a “loud, angry feminist” until someone takes you seriously. It’s time to take women and girls seriously.
To read more on this subject, I highly recommend the following books, which were the inspiration for this post:
- Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape- by Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti
- Half the Sky: Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide- by Nicholas D. Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn
~ Samantha
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Gender and Stereotypes
GLBTQ Rights
HIV
Human Trafficking
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Sex and Culture
Sexually Transmitted Diseases
Social Justice and Human Rights
Unintended Pregnancy
After reading this I'm inspired to write a follow-up to your post about Half the Sky...hope I can get around to doing this.
While on the surface it would appear that women are getting shafted on salary, it would appear most women choose careers that are more generous on benefits and flexibility than on pay.
Also, women are less likely to pursue degrees in technological fields such as engineering, medicine, law, computer sciences and medicine which, by nature, command higher salaries.
These statistics also reveal that women's salaries have jumped at least 12% during the past 20 years, much less than their male counterparts.
Comparitively, the so-called "wage gap" is very narrow (in some cases, less than 3%).
My solution to this perceived "issue" is to strongly encourage young girls to become active in science and math, and to urge them to pursue careers in these fields.
One more major difficulty is the lack of affordable child-care. One reason women are paid less is that they take more time off to care for their chldren, which not only costs the overall economy money, but is detrimental to their familial income. So women are faced with a choice: Stay home with their children and not make money, or send their children to very expensive day-care so that they can work. In a recent-ish New Yorker, Ariel Levy, a feminist columnist and author, wrote about how the idealized concept of motherhood, drawn from romantisised visions of 1950s family structures, pushed congress to vote against early childhood education and day care. It is the lucky woman that can take 5 years out of the workforce to care for her children, and those children who are not so lucky are those who would benefit most from day-care, which provides a head start on reading and mathematics, and teaches about nutrition and other things that will help them develop healthily.
The New York Times had an article this morning about this debate in Germany, where schools are normally half day, because in the 19th century, the Prussian elite wanted to have a more active role in the education of their children. While that model worked well for them, as more and more women enter the work-force, becoming 50%, or more, with the current recession, the need for optional free or government subsidized (read cheap, but high-quality) day-care.
We need to de-stigmatize day-care, and silence those nay-sayers and snobs who look down on women who use day-care to both raise healthy children and make money. We need to make it available to every woman who wants it, and begin to change the outdated impression of the ideal family from one where the mother does no work outside the home to one where fathers, where they are present, have an equal and active role in raising children, and where women can both work and be mothers without feeling guilt or having to choose between them.
Where our stance begins to separate is from the beginning. It seems as if there is this utopian idea that that the ultimate goals should be no difference between a man and women; that equality will exist in all parameters of life. For one, I find this nearly impossible when nature alone sets differences that will filter into the way of life creating inevitable differences. One example is the differences in genetic and chemical make up that set a difference in personality. It is scientifically proven that men have higher levels of testosterone while women naturally have higher levels of estrogen. I am in no position to give a scientific background but common knowledge it is safe to say that because of this men typically have a more aggressive personality. Furthermore, it leads to physical differences in body make-up leaving the average male significantly larger and stronger than the average female. There is no way anyone can debate those issues of physical differences. That is not to say however, that there isn't a women out there that can bench 250 pounds, but admittedly she would be an outlier to the average. With this I will attempt to raise some concerns that I have with as many comments as time allows.
When reading the first example I could not help but immediately think about the book, "why men earn more than women." I know this book is not bulletproof, but it is difficult to completely discredit his theory. It is easy to just look at the statistic alone and conclude that women earn less than men (77-100). That is a near 33 percent difference. However, after studying economics as an undergrad along with several statistical classes you learn that you have to look deeper at how they acquired those numbers. Some variables that a lot of these statistics leave out are: leaves of absences, choice of job, time in the same position (work experience), hours worked a week, degree of sincerity(differing priorities), willingness to move for the job, and etc. Many of these you are probably thinking make little sense so I will explain a few. For example, it is proven that men take more leaves of absences then the average man. Anytime someone takes a leave of absence it slows promotion and pay. It is proven that men are typically more willing to sacrifice and move to undesirable locations to speed promotion. Women typically place a higher value on comfort than money. An inherent characteristic that results in lower pay. That is the decision that women make, not that society is physically pushing down on a glass ceiling. Obviously I summarized a couple hundred pages in less than a paragraph so its degree of sophistication and effectiveness is much less than the book itself. If you haven't read the book I highly recommend that you read it because it does present some great points. The overall thesis of the book that its not society rather, the decisions that women make cause the difference in pay. If a woman went into the work world today, she would have an equal opportunity in comparison to a man with equal qualifications.
Example two somewhat relates to the example above as I believe that having a child is one of many factors why women end up making less than men. Unfortunately, nature put women in the position to be the carriers of babies. With that comes sacrifice. In a perfect world the government should impose forced leave pay to help a women through those times. However, not every business is enterprise the size of Microsoft or Apple where they drive significant revenue that will easily hide the cost of maternity leave. From a business perspective the government cannot expect a small revenue driving company whom is barely making ends meat to pay a person that will not contribute to least extent for a period of 12 week. It doesn't make sense. We live in a world where every decision comes with an opportunity cost. I can buy a safer car but will probably cost me more. The difference in cost between the cheap car and the expensive car is the opportunity cost that I paid for safety. The income you sacrifice through pregnancy and thereafter, is the cost of having a baby. Wait until you get to their teen years when they have to go to college. It gets real expensive. Again my point is its an unrealistic demand on society.
Example 3 I found to be extremely disturbing. For one, I am not a religious nut, so naturally I do not believe that abstinence before marriage is realistic. However, I do not believe that this in any way promotes male supremacy. For one, women are told in the same regard as men to wait until marriage. They do not tell boys to have sex with as many girls but then tell the girls to stay away. Today we live in a society where sex is getting out of control. Kids in elementary and junior high are experimenting with oral sex and even intercourse. Even with little morals, I think it is safe to say that this has some degree of wrong in it. At least from the perspective of maturity alone. Kids at those ages do not understand the ramifications of sex (pregnancy and disease to name a few big ones). They are not mature enough to make decisions that could potentially impact their life. Although I agree that they natural feelings, but to just promote it would be ludicrous. There is no way that a school will successfully promote abstinence but at the very least it will slow the progression. Telling kids it is ok to have sex like rabbits because its natural in the 7th grade is far from acceptable.
If you came out with example 4 ten years ago, then I might have to agree with you. However, today 57%(according to the US news and world reports) of collegiate enrollment is women. I think the idea of boy goes to college and focuses on future while girl sits and waits is finally over. However, you cannot criticize the few women that chose that path. There is nothing wrong with a women whom wants to find a parter that will support a family while she stays home. Although, I personally wouldn't want a wife that doesn't work, it is not necessarily a bad thing if the kids have a stay at home mom. Its natural for a women to prefer to nurture instead of work behind a desk. Again this is a distinct difference that nature intended. Look at something as primitive as a dog. The male dog doesn't feed the puppies milk, the female dog does. Why, well I don't think I have to explain that. There are some stay at home dad's but it is more common for women (not society) to decide that staying at home is something that better suits her desires.
This example #5 is on the border of lame and offensive. So let me get this right, you are upset that society protects women from rapists more than they protect men? By this, it creates a ceiling that promotes inequality between men and women. I feel like I shouldn't even explain why this whole argument is without merit. However, lets start with the statistic that men are 150% more likely to become a victim of assault. You forget to address the fact that men with their more naturally aggressive temperaments put themselves in a position of higher risk. Men are constantly starting bar fights to prove superiority, to satisfy their ego. Secondly, physical fights between women and women occur way less often. Lastly, leaving the idea of men assaulting women which in times results in rape or worse. Society feels that it is necessary to protect women because of their natural disadvantage. I hate to break it to you but the average male can out handle the average female. I am not saying that there is not a women out there that can out handle a man but on the averages this is an extremely lopsided statistic. Furthermore, society looks down upon any male who attempts to physically dominate a female in any way. As it should, that alone is an abuse of power that society is attempting to protect females against. But your right I am sorry, lets not protect women allow them to get raped and pummeled by most averaged sized males because you do not want to admit your inferiority. Sounds a bit arrogant and egotistical if you ask me.
Example seven is in no way an attempt to spite women of their preference in better health. Lets look at this from a business perspective: why would an insurance company charge the same amount to two different individuals when one has a higher likelihood of illness. That would be stupid because they would make profit on one and probably take a bath on the other. That would be a dumb investment. Again choices that you make yield costs. You admittedly found a difference between men and women. Women care more for their health and wellbeing (which by the way reinforces one of the theories in "why men earn more than women"), which as a result yields a greater cost. I don't understand why there is a complaint on this matter and how it leads to inequality. The truth is, insurance is a business not a government enterprise that is a net loss paid by tax money. It has a need to drive revenue to pay salaries and the "fat cats"(another issue outside of feminism), and in the end drive a bottom of the line profit.
Example 8, wow I am tired and do not feel like getting into a whole debate on abortion. However, I am not sure how this relates to feminism I do partly agree with your position. I do believe that it should be a right for doctors to decide whether or not they want to do a procedure. In tort law or criminal law, there is no legal duty for any affirmative action. A government should never be able to force someone to do an act unless they have some inherent duty such as an existing relationship such as parent child. It is not like we live in a country where it is difficult to access a wide variety of doctors. If you happen to come across one who doesn't believe in your requested procedure then why wouldn't you just go to someone else? Why is it necessary to impose your beliefs on him if he has strong moral objections? To me this all seems arrogant.
I apoligize for any grammer or difficult to read sentences. I wrote this entire article and did not look back to see if it makes sense. Frankly, it is just way to long. I hope that you get a chance to read it and at the very least come away with an understanding of another perspective outside of the radical ideas in the article posted above. I respect your position on feminism and I agree with equality to the extent that is possible.
You point out the discrepencies in how much you pay for health insurance. However you fail to point out the descrepencies in auto insurance. women on average pay 9% less then males in auto insurance. Lets not even bring up life insurance. If you have to ask why on this then your not paying attention to the world around you. Its not because men are being picked on, and the feminist movement is laughing as they are pushing men lower and lower. Its because we are more aggressive in everything we do and are more likely to USE those insurances thus we pay more.
Oh, another point on example 3. your kidding that abstinence discredits women? I actually love the way you think. So have at it i welcome your idea, as does every male out there who is looking to put another one on his notch. I would assume that you would have an issue with women having sex randomly as it furthers the male desires more. im not saying women dont have sexual desires, however compared to a mans its a small piece of dust on the floor. This made me laugh, although i dont agree with it whatsoever. It made me think "are feminists really being controlled by men who want more sex?"
There are a few things in the feminist movement that are great and i agree with 100%. Like a woman should be treated equally as a man, of course that is a no brainer. However, a woman is in no way eqaul to a man, nor a man in no way equal to a woman. we are physically, emotionally, and socially completely different beings. Thank you God for that!
You want equality but we are not allowed to hit you when you say or do things that...if a guy said he would get his face caved in. You say you want equality but then why can't you be held accountable for the crap you pull in relationships? If you do something wrong you are allowed to get away and the law will protect you from harassment. If we do something wrong you can throw stuff at us, call the cops, get a restraining order, and everyone will be on your side without even looking at what it is you did to get the guy going so bad. You might say oh a guy can get a restraining order against a girl too, but that never happens because of the hormonal difference and the sexual power. Girls just don't care as much, they can go out and get a new guy by snapping their fingers. Feminism is one thing, but men have become downright devalued and expendable.
Women have always had the sexual power, while we have to fall over each other trying to impress you enough to say yes to us. Please tell me, what is it you need us for these days anymore? Society has removed us men from importance: our physical strength is moot: by a gun, carry mace, and go to the grocery store (no hunting or protection required). Now that you are in the majority at colleges you have already begun to edge us out of the money making dominance. Now that you don't need us for that either, what is it you need us for? Now, a quick trip to the dildo store and the sperm bank, and presto we are OUT of the picture.
You are all OUT OF CONTROL. You are frothing at the mouth to make up for the "oppression" of your mothers and grandmothers. You have been given all these modern freedoms and you are abusing the crap out of them.
Facebook....We don't CARE that you have 700 friends, or that half of them are named Raul from Portugal...We get it, you can replace us at any time you desire if we make a wrong step. Forgiveness and willingness to admit wrongs, to have some humilty, to tuck your tail between your legs when you should...facebook and the internet in general makes men expendable, it lets women flirt and cheat, and it lets you brag about it to your 700 fake facebook friends. Never in the history of humanity have women had such easy access to tools which destroy their moral compass, the feelings of men, and their own virtue.
Also now you have all these security settings and oh boy aren't you ladies tricky with the settings. You might have 600 friends we can't see, or secret flirts we are oblivious to. You might say guys have the same access to the same security settings but we are not that devious or complicated! We don't mess with those settings, only you do as a ploy to screw around behind our back. Wouldn't want us "Controlling" you would you?!
But then in your heart somewhere you must know that it is wrong to have guy friends that you flirt with while in a relationship and keeping it secret, or denying it's flirtation and getting all upset because we are trying to "control" you, when in reality it is YOU who need something else to focus your energy on other than flirting and messing around, or validating your physical attractiveness to yourself with slutty facebook pictures, posts and flirtations.
Being facebook friends with a girlfriend is HELL. Every time a guy asks her a question and she responds you have to ask who is that, and then it turns out to be an ex-boyfriend 90% of the time. Then she hides everything with her settings and you can only imagine what she is doing behind your back, all you know is that she is not there with you, only with you, she is also off in la la facebook land with her ex-boyfriends and Raul from Portugal.
Then you have the laws...don't get me started on chivalry, and you wonder why it's dead ha!
And with all the power you have now (more so than ever in history or any place ever in the world) you still complain WAH WAH WAH and take advantage of every tool you can to live out your unrestricted fantasy life devoid of the men who want to subjugate you. This is like the wall street bankers, once they get an inch they want a mile and there is nothing we can do to keep them from robbing us into the dark ages. The truth is, like the wall street bankers, you have been given too much power for you to handle and you are out of control. You are out of control and need to be reigned in. Because of the hormones and physiology alone women are "Crazy" by default and they NEED to be subjugated, or THIS happens. It was a great experiment, now we know what happens, but it is a FAILED experiment.
I'll let you in on a little secret! Feminism was allowed by the government and men in general because America has only 300 million people, vs China and India, Russia etc having billions. How can our economy compete with that unless we double our consumer and productivity base by giving women equality? Now you can make money, buy cars, and screw things up with the rest of us. Congratulations. Please!!!! Please...life is hard enough. Please remember your place!!! Go iron my shirt and make me breakfast, because I need to go to work now!!!