So I have told about 20 friends or so that i'm bi and they treat me the same. It's awesome! My friend who is also bi hasn't told them because she's scared they'll react different. What really gave me the nerve to tell my friends was a girl named chelsea on youtube. She has her own channel and talks about being lesbian and how hard it is but that it's who you are. Watching her videos made me realize that my life would get so much easier if my friends knew! so i told my closest friends. I don't care much about being popular anymore i just want to be me! I'm coming out within the next year! 

 For me coming out is hard because of the "what ifs" the "what will happen" and most importantly the"what will my friends say". I'm an overweight 14 year old girl who is bi-sexual. I at times think i am and except it but other time i lie to myself and say i'm straight.  I like being popular and on a scale of o to 100(0 being the worst and 100 being most popular) for my freshman class i would say i'm a decent 83. I think that for people like me(overweight) it's even harder to come out. An example is two types of girls at my school. One group of girls are lesbian and are fat. The other is a girl who came out but she is skinny and pretty. Everyone talks about the "fatty lesbos" but the other girl gets left alone no one talks shit about her. I feel like if i came out that would be me the addition to the "fatty lesbos" even though i'm bi. And one of my friends is also bi and she is skinny. I feel like if we were to both come out i would be the one who gets shit talked about and she would get nothing. I will admit i'm shallow if i was a guy i'd go out for the skinnier chick( by this i mean like not overweight) who's blonde(just a prefrence) rather than the fat chick . And i care a lot about being popular i woun't do anything to be popular but it matters to me. I know some of my friends would still be my friends even if i came out but the thing is they aren't super popular . I hate being different i mean in the sense of having to deal with not only being overweight and getting made fun of behind my back but the fact that i would have to deal with girls giving me weird stares in the halls for being bi. People finding out is my biggest worry. With the pressures of being popular and having the right friends makes me scared to loose the reputation it took me 4 years to build. My rep is the " funny, nice, and okay looking rounder chick" i don't mind being called okay looking it's better than being called ugly. ANd if i was to come out and have the same friends it would be awkward and then i would have to add finding hot bi-sexual girls to my long list of things i look for at school. For me coming out is risky and scary. You never know who your real friends are but if your bi or les or gay or transgender and you tell one of your "friends" your secret and they aren't a real friend it's the end of the life you knew because your set into the LGBT stareotype.

 yeah all of this is true and yeah we should value inner beauty intead of outer but the truth is we don't. I am overweight and i am trying to loose weight and yeah i do want to be like all of my ohter friends who are skinny and pretty. Everyone at my school in front of people are like yeah inner beauty is more important but inside they know that  if a boy has two choices for a girlfriend; one is a skinny pretty girl but has a terrible personality and the other is a chubbier girl who has a super personality the boy always goes with the bitch. Yeah there is some boys who would go for the nice girl but the majority don't. I think that one yeah love your body but if you are overwight or obese(im like talking 20-100 pounds overweight not like 1 or 2) then you should change your body for yourself and for your health. But a girl who weighs like maybe one pound more than her friends should be happy. Even though i am overweight i like my body i don't love it but that's why i'm changing it. Actually everyone i know who was overweight and lost a lot of the weight are beautiful it's just that the extra lbs. covered that up. The media does affect a lot of girls and boys but i think everyone should be taught that you were born a certain way for a reason, because that certain difference make you beautiful and why go and be like everyone else. Matching clothes is cute matching bodies and faces not stylish. That's just what i think, just my opinion.