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by:  AFY_Joe
Wednesday, February 18, 2009 at 3:26:00 PM EST
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Last Friday, we introduced you to the completely screwed up "Miss the Mess" website of the Ohio group Abstinence 'Till Marriage (ATM), a fitting acronym considering that they have received $1.6 million in federal CBAE grants, to date. On their site, you could enter the “Party Room”, where you learn the perspective of 4 fictional kids on what happens during and after a party one night. Rochelle tells about being raped by Jason after the party, but ATM warns it's young readers that she is not to be believed, because she is not a virgin and other kids say she is a "slut". Jason, on the other hand, is shown sympathy because he was drunk, and hey, boys will be boys, right?

Yes, of all the completely whacked curriculum coming out of abstinence-only until marriage programs over the last decade, sucking up more than $1.5 billion in tax dollars, this grantee would have to be in the running as the most atrocious (which is certainly saying something).

But this weekend, ATM's story took a turn. After the internet firestorm that our post created, receiving coverage at DailyKos, Feministing, Feministe and Pandagon, ATM was inundated with traffic and angry emails, letting them know just how offensive and wrong their website is.

On Sunday, ATM decided to completely change their "Party Room", apparently ashamed at being outed as rape apologists and victim-blamers. The Party Room now begins with an extended disclaimer stating that rape is actually, you know, wrong (shocker!). They also removed their "correct" answers to questions on the site asking who was the least credible, now saying that everyone is entitled to their opinion. Also removed is a large portion of the "slut-shaming" language of site that not only sent the message that non-virgin rape victims shouldn't be believed, but actively taught young people how to slut-shame.

Just as the case was when Derek the Abstinence Clown (another Ohio ab-only grantee) was exposed, this window into the abstinence-only sex education world was not supposed to be peered into by "outsiders". Because they knew that if citizens figured out that their tax dollars were going to stuff like this, their funding would be in great jeopardy. And just like Derek the Abstinence Clown, the operation to scrub the internet of the incriminating evidence began immediately once they were exposed.

While this move by ATM to change their website is to be commended, you could go on for days picking apart all of the other misinformation given to young people in their program, as their site is littered with faux-science propaganda, such as this goodie:

If you have sex before you marry your are more likely to:

1. Breakup before you marry
2. Scare off someone who wants to marry a virgin
3. Be less happy in your marriage
4. Get a divorce
5. Commit adultery after you marry
6. Be fooled into marrying for the wrong reason
7. Be less satisfied with your married sex life
8. Have guilt feelings that may nudge you into a poor marriage
9. Be deprived of the important bonding that sexual intimacy can give a marriage
So, just to reiterate, changing the language of their website is a victory, but a small one. The big victory that we must all stay focused on is ending all federal funding for these failed abstinence-only until marriage programs that have fleeced our government out of $1.5 billion dollars and endangered the sexual health of countless young people.

President Obama is making his 2010 budget right now, so if you want end the ab-only insanity, please send him a message to to zero out this funding, once and for all.

Comments
Apparently, the discussion is closed on your previous post... No worries though, I'll repost my thoughts here:

From my viewpoint, it looks as if the story line has drawn many people into this fictitious drama like moths to flame. Some are impassioned to defend the alleged victim... some are engaged in political activism... and some are stalwart in their ideology.  It has actually  created a real-world "mess", just like the story says. As a discussion tool, it seems like the objective has been met.



We should, as a society, be able to handle these discussions without censorship and suppression of speech. In their viewpoint, the site's authors seem to have created what they feel is a microcosm of our culture today. If there is evidence of proselytizing, then I think the organization should be challenged since they receive federal funds. However, I haven't seen anything on this sight that violates the terms of their government-funded CBAE grant, or Title V for that matter (please enlighten me if you disagree).



On that level, when the Mapplethorpe exhibit was challenged in Cincinnati in the late eighties/early nineties, it actually increased funding for the arts.  I would use discretion on which groups to attack and find a real enemy to justify your cause – not a dramatized account of a teenage party gone bad. If you want to challenge a particular group on the influence of social mores and attitudes toward rape, I would start with the pornography industry.
# Posted By CJ | 2/19/09 01:33 PM | Report | Reply
And let me guess CJ, you work for the Miss the Mess website, right?
# Posted By Jewell | 8/30/09 11:09 PM | Report | Reply
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